Emotional Intelligence and How it Relates to ADHD

“Emotions cannot be permanent. That’s why they are called ‘emotions’—the word comes from ‘motion,’ movement. They move; hence, they are ‘emotions.’ From one to another you continually change. This moment you are sad, that moment you are happy; this moment you are angry, that moment you are compassionate. This moment you are loving, another moment you are full of hatred; the morning was beautiful, the evening is ugly. And this goes on.”
- Emotional Wellness: Transforming fear, anger, and jealousy into creative energy by the Osho International Foundation (pg. 2).

When I began to read Emotional Wellness: Transforming fear, anger, and jealousy into creative energy by the Osho International Foundation, I instantly found myself thinking of those of us with ADHD and how overwhelming our emotions can be at times.

I am drawn to Zen practices and meditation, in part because my parents didn’t raise me with a particular religion but also because of the peace of mind that such slow, mindfulness brings to my life. As an ADHD’r, my natural tendency is to always be on the go (as my post What is Burnout? describes), but instinct, despite millennia of evolution, isn’t always advantageous, gratifying, or healthful. In addition to burnout, when you’re always “on the go” you can suffer from the extreme emotions that flow through you without recognizing their sources or their impacts on your physical or mental health.

I really appreciate Dr. Hallowell’s article about ADD/ADHD and emotional intelligence, Emotional Intelligence: The Missing Link? It speaks to ADHD’rs who have trouble connecting to and understanding others, but also the internal impacts that such disconnects, between one’s emotions and one’s understanding of them, can have on the self.

Whether through meditation, listening to music, reading, writing, or any number of unhurried activities, it’s important to take quiet moments to recognize what plagues you and how you can overcome such troubles.
The insightful poster that hangs in my mother's office (Mary Jo Wilson PhD.)

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